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Vinyl Queen – “… but Mistress, I’m not submissive”
By vinyl queen | March 30, 2009
Getting Bored With Your Kink
So you’ve been into “this stuff” for a while now and boredom has gradually crept into your mindset. At first it was so hot to know that you could find whatever you wanted in your personal kink via the internet, but now your attitude has changed. Even the visual stimulation of online porn isn’t as interesting as it used to be. You view it with a jaded eye as it’s not “believable” to you, or maybe everything is just “the same” now. What to do?
Boredom with one’s sexual proclivity is something I’ve been discussing with many of my clients recently. Their years of SM sessions have added up and now they feel like they have “been there and done that.” I liken this experience to viewing motion pictures on the big screen. When you first see one, you’re stunned and amazed at the scale, production and quality of the film. The experience excites your senses and it’s easy to enjoy yourself. The plot can even be not so much because you’re still new to the act of sitting in a theater and watching a movie. This feeling eventually wears off, and then you learn about things like how movies are made, how to spot special effects like a green screen, and you generally have higher expectations for plot structure and to be entertained. You stop going to the movies as much because you understand that most of them aren’t that great in the first place. You reserve your movie going experience for when you hear about a truly great film via friends, reviews, and just hype in general.
The same very much applies to one’s kink and how you satisfy it. Yes, it’s easy to arrange a session or view content that’s ultimately going to bore you and leave you somewhat disappointed. The challenge is to assess what is really important to you and FIND a way to achieve that in your personal experience. If you don’t want to be treated like a slave by a Pro Domme, then make sure to explain that when you contact her. If you DO want to be made to grovel on your belly like a worm and you don’t want to ever communicate with her in person as a peer, TELL HER. If you only seek kink content that is believable, then look for smaller studios and more amateur content that features real life couples/Dommes and subs. My point is that as your interests become more advanced or require more depth, you need to work harder to satisfy them. You need to find someone or something to interact with that is as particular as you are. It’s not necessarily easy, but the end result will be worth the effort.
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